“Maximizers treat relationships like clothing: I expect to try a lot on before finding the perfect fit.For a maximizer, somewhere out there is the perfect lover, the perfect friends.The influence of fads and fashions and the need to be the stereotypical male or female as the media dictates becomes impossible to live up to.As someone who struggles in a hand to mouth existence, in an out of work struggle with health getting anywhere near being a suitable partner for anyone has become more and more illusive.Danes also follow the Law of Jante, an unofficial ethos that frowns upon individual achievement and success. Rather than treating life like an endless rat race, Danish children are taught to be content with being average and, well, having average things.And, in return for accepting the ordinary, they end up less anxious, less stressed, and, most importantly, less miserable than the rest of the maximizing world.I never feel that I measure up in a ruthlessly competitive dating 'market'.Yes you are right, the choices given to people and the way in which both men and women exercise these choices has now become overwhelming amidst the multitude of choices.
If there is some subset of data available, how would it even be expected to generalize? I feel like an anachronism where all around me people seem to be using dating apps.
It feels almost as if dating is now a competition where the wealthy, the well connected, the young the 'beautiful, and the handsome are rewarded with relationships and successful dating.
The way people seem to date nowadays is in what ever way media, online blogs and articles, relationship magazines and films tell them to act.
Even though there is nothing wrong with the current relationship, who knows what’s possible if you keep your eyes open.” In contrast to maximizers are satisficers, who are willing to settle for good enough and not worry about there being something better out there (let’s face it, there probably is).
Still, satisficing doesn’t mean you should jump for joy when presented with garbage options.